October 31, 2024
Good morning, Steph. Your Mother and I wish to speak to you about the template we gave you for how a family unit should work. We lived more as a group of strangers in the house, interacting rarely, yet needing to stay together for the survival of the pod. This is what I want you to know today, or at least the wisdom I wish to share – the family exists in service of the individual, not the other way around. Family is a powerful teaching container offering many lessons in how to learn yourself, stand as yourself, and choose self integrity. You were willing to submit your will to your Mother’s fire and control along with my passivity and need for peace because you believed it was what your God required of you, yet who told you this was what God required of you? Yes. Your Mother taught submission to parent equaled fealty to God, for it was what she read in her Scripture. Some families support the elevation of the individual, and these are the units who stay in more contact, more connection with each other.
You have a child who chose the way of faith, another who ran wild like a stallion refusing all limits, one who chose repression of truth and isolates from the tribe because of it, and one who currently walks the path of reason, though there is room for this to change as he grows and evolves. Though we did not do well as a couple in imaging the ebbs and flows of romantic love, your mother and I are soul family and we chose to have each and every one of you five in the humble circumstances we did and with the challenge of the age and personality gaps, with intention and for our own purposes. There were no mistakes in your births or the timing of them. There are no mistakes in the structure of your own family either.
When I said that you were our first and best as I was preparing to pass, I meant that you carry the best of Gayle and I within you. We were our brightest, our happiest, our most hopeful in that first year together. That bright, hopeful happiness has always lived in you, along with buckets of love, for that is what you were conceived in. To come in willing to be a Lineage Redeemer is a high and holy calling that impacts generations to come and continues to bring healing, bring wholeness to those of us on this side of the veil. To walk away from the requirements of the family system is almost unheard of in either Barkey or Clouse lines, yet you are doing it, and this is how redemption comes.
Though your chosen life partnership thus far has been challenging, it is in service to you, for it asks you to do the same thing – leave a beloved other’s chosen pathway for you and walk your own. You are doing this with love, gentleness and grace in all arenas, and though you are on occasion angry, frustrated or overwhelmed, you do not make your choices from this place. He was right to try and give his family something more than he had in Fred and Betsy’s cold, isolating house – opportunity for advancement. You have advanced because of leaving family land. Your children advanced and individuated because of their rather nomadic upbringing. So far communities on Earth have worked because of fealty to an exterior structure, but self fealty and the community built through that, from that, is where the Earth is headed.
This cat is similar to you, by the way, and to the men you prefer, for though you desire deep connection, you need incredible amounts of freedom as well, and will say no to love if you have to play by rules that keep you close to someone when you want to roam or think or commune with nature or to simply be alone. All the men you have chosen are relevant in your evolution, for each one asks you to work through this mystery and come out on the side of authenticity with zero sacrifice of self or personal values to make the relationship work. Peace at all costs is death to inner wisdom, inner truth, and often to the bond as well. Peace is not the point of a family, nor is belonging (though this can and often does happen) for many souls come in with specific and isolated lessons they wish to learn in the unit. Family offers the chance for elevation, and again, though this can come from support through roots and wings, very often elevation comes through willingness to leave the unit with all the conditioning and rules it gave, and image the self Creator God made you to be at your soul’s conception.
Always family is meant to call you back home to this home – the truth of yourself as found in Original Source. When this return happens, dead programming falls away, and life and life abundant comes. This, I believe, is the point and purpose of family. I trust you to hold what is right for you to keep, ponder through the questions, and lay down what you do not wish to carry. I love you. I am proud of you. My joy, blessing, and belief rest on you. Happy Halloween, Steph.